Friendship From Within and Without

The Vincentian mission statement tells us that we are “a network of friends inspired by gospel values.” Growth in holiness and service to the poor are basic elements of the Vincentian charism, but there is also a central place for human relationships that bind the members of the Vincentian family together in friendship. We are not merely co-workers or fellow parishioners. There is a deeper level of union that stems from a common calling to aid the poor and see in these neighbors the face of Christ. But friendship needs to be expressed in concrete ways. It is built on taking the extra step in reaching out to the other. That might involve a phone call to an ailing Vincentian, an informal conversation before or after a meeting, extending an invitation to a social event, sharing a concern of your own, or simply any act of kindness. Conferences can serve as a model for the parish of what it means to collaborate around a common goal and show mutual respect and appreciation for one another. There is also the opportunity for common prayer at the beginning of each meeting when Vincentians can share their faith and inspire each other.

 

Another dimension of human relationships pertains to the various lay ministries in the parish. It can only enhance the work of the Society and the work of the parish if the links to all parish ministries are strong. In some instances, Vincentians are already involved as a Eucharistic Minister, Faith Formation teacher, or parish counsel member. But, it is also possible to take a step further and work together in very specific ways. The most obvious example would be Parish Outreach / Parish Social Ministry because there are shared purposes with St. Vincent de Paul based on outreach to the poor and needy. Collaboration in this instance will benefit everyone involved depending on the need and the situation. Faith Formation, Consolation, Knights of Columbus, Pastoral Council, and other parish-based ministries provide opportunities for Vincentians to benefit from the resources these ministries provide.

 

The parish staff including the pastor is another dimension of parish life where strong bonds are essential. Every Conference is formed and continues to serve with the permission of the pastor. Keeping the pastor informed, inviting him to meetings or specific events, calling upon him when a need arises enables the Society to be more effective and creates a healthy and cooperative spirit. At times, the pastor or staff member serves as spiritual advisor. While every Conference is connected to the Diocesan Central Council, it is rooted in the local community of faith where it serves those in need.

 

The spirit of friendship is a hallmark of the Society since its founding. But that same spirit can also extend to other parish ministries and the parish staff, serving as a model of cooperation and a shared vision.